Today is our second wedding anniversary. Time goes by so fast, it’s hard to believe. Just last week, A and I were looking through our wedding pictures and it felt like yesterday when we celebrated such an incredible weekend with our friends and family. Shortly after we got married, I received a great piece of advice that really stuck with me. It was something along the lines of “enjoy the early years of your marriage, when it’s just the two of you. build memories and have great experiences with each other because it strengthens your bond for the years ahead. the years you will spend with kids and all the other added stresses that come along with it, far outnumbers the years where it will be – just the two of you. so enjoy each other.”
Year two was about just that – creating memories, being carefree, and doing things that would be more difficult (and perhaps less enjoyable) when it’s no longer just the two of us. Within the last year, we did a short stint of long distance while A was living in Kingston, Jamaica, spent two incredible weeks in Southeast Asia, and continued focusing on turning our house into a home. There were also small milestones like buying our first BBQ and patio furniture that felt gratifying in some odd way. This weekend, we are off to the east coast. I’m looking forward to spending time with family in Montreal, celebrating a friend’s wedding in Toronto, our short road trip between the two, and bringing Alfie along on this trip with us.
Without reading each other’s answers until now, I thought it would be fun for both of us to answer some questions about our second year of marriage, which will serve as a great snapshot when we look back on our marriage down the road.
1| What is your favorite way to spend time together, just the two of you?
J: The obvious answer is travelling. We travel incredibly well together so going on new adventures is always when I feel the most excited and happy. On the other hand, I love experiencing new things together just in every day life, watching our favorite shows, walking Alfie to get ice cream, and firing up the BBQ spontaneously with some cold beers on a nice day to enjoy our patio.
A: My favorite way to spend time together, just the two of us, is when we travel and we spend the entire day adventuring through a new city/town. We wake up early and can spend an entire day together walking non stop which results in us falling upon hidden treasures that we wouldn’t have found it if weren’t for walking together.
2 | What has brought you closer together this year?
J: Owning our own place has always been an important personal goal for both of us. So, finally moving into our place felt like a huge milestone that we had accomplished together and one which we were both very proud of. We also expanded our family with Alfie this year. Furnishing our place, making decisions for our home together, and taking care of Alfie brought us closer. It solidified that we are still on the same page and it’s certainly comforting to know that we make a great team.
A: I believe three things have brought us closer. First, I think with my father in law’s out of nowhere brain injury put into perspective how life can change for the worst at any moment and we spent countless days and nights in the hospital with each other to support him. Second, the shooting that resulted in a gunshot through our living room window as I was looking out was another example of how in an instant life can be cut short so it is important to never bask repeatedly over negative things but rather stay positive everyday and focus on the good. Third, we started a new chapter in our life, moving into our beautiful home downtown and introducing a new member to our family, our dog Alfie.
3 | What are you most proud of about your relationship?
J: Our relationship is just easy and it’s never another reason I need to stress about. While we’ve only been married for two years, we’ve been together for a total of 6 years but nothing is stale or boring. I love that neither of us feel like we need to conform to pressures or preconceived notions that a standing date night every week will be the cure-all to avoid being “a boring married couple”.
A: I personally am the most proud of the fact that we are in what I believe is a mature relationship. From the moment we met I knew this was going to be something special and we didn’t need to go through any honeymoon phases and for the last six years we haven’t pegged our expectations of “love” to the crap they play in movies and TV. We are always there for each other through all the ups and downs in life and at the end of the day I believe we are perfect for each other. We both push each other in different ways to excel in life and I believe that is achieved because we balance very well between the two of us our strengths and weaknesses.
4 | Any bucket list items for year 3?
J: Going to Sri Lanka or East Africa. Taking a weekend trip to a city in the U.S. to see a concert. Enjoying the mountains more and taking Alfie on some hikes. Take up a winter sport or hobby to make the Calgary winters less painful. I had also mentioned to A recently that I would love to take ballroom dancing classes.
A: Family Trip to London and adding about 10 more countries to our already increasingly list of accomplished countries. Major Boxing Fight in Las Vegas. Our dream trip to Sri Lanka, Dubai and Oman.
5 | What do you look forward to most in the year ahead?
J: Buying a bed and finally furnishing our bedroom. Putting up art/paintings/photos on the, currently bare, walls of our place. Creating more traditions together for the holidays. Seeing how Alfie will change in his second year. As with every year, I’m excited to see where our travels take us in the year ahead.
A: I am most looking forward to progressing our career goal that we share together. We have a game plan and every year that goes by the closer we are to attaining it. I am also looking forward to continue furnishing our home that we absolutely love and continue spending quality time together!
P.S. Here is what I learned in our first year of marriage.